I have been MIA a lot lately from my blog. In fact I have been MIA a lot from my blog ever since I started my job at Tommy over a year ago. I have found it harder and harder to consistently blog. Part of it was adjusting to corporate America and the other part was feeling like the blogging world was changing so much.
Remember when blogs weren’t a job, but just a source of inspiration and creativity? Where we all got to connect and support one another? Today, it’s all about the latest clothes, fashion week, and beautiful pictures. And I fear that the beautiful blogs that exist, ignite jealousy in readers more than positive, uplifting feelings. I have found myself at a stand still with my blog because I have felt pressure to try to stay up with the “blogging trends.” But the truth is, that is just not me. And that’s not why I started this blog.
I started this blog to share my journey of going after my dreams, in hopes that it would inspire others to go after their own dreams. I wanted to share the ups and downs, the failures and successes. Because sometimes, it’s nice to know that behind all the pretty clothes and pictures, we are all human too. We all have to get through this beautiful crazy world, and for me, blogging was a place where we could all support and uplift each other.
So bare with me while I try to figure this all out. I am not trying to be a “famous” blogger and have thousands of followers. I am just trying to share my journey. After I got my dream job at Tommy, I found it hard to blog because in some sense, I felt like, I did it. I got the dream job I always talked about, and didn’t know what to work towards anymore.
After soul searching I realized how arrogant of me it is to think I have reached it. Because if we are not progressing in life, then what are we really doing? I will admit that after starting at Tommy I got use to my new “routine” really quickly. I went to work, came home, worked out, ate dinner, hung out with my husband and repeated this every single day. I think I was so burned out from design school that I really enjoyed not having homework anymore. I got lazy. But what was I really doing to progress to my future? What was I doing to make the world a better place or simply help another? And on a professional level, what was I doing to go towards my big goals of creating my women’s wear line Taylor Morgan?
I did some soul searching, prayed hard and created a plan. That plan includes my dancewear brand Cove. For me Cove is the first big step towards creating Taylor Morgan down the road.
Here is what I have learned.
Each and every day counts. Do one thing a day to progress to the next day. The less you focus on yourself and try to help and serve others, the more time and means you will have to fulfill your own personal goals. Like it says in the scriptures, “He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.” I understand more than ever how true this is. The more I make serving others a priority, the easier my own life gets. And the joy that comes from truly connecting with another human being is unreal.
So to sum up my ramblings, I hope that my small space on the internet can not only be a place where you can enjoy pretty pictures of design, nyc, fashion, etc, but also a place where we can be real about life and inspire each other to be better. I have met some amazing people from blogging, and I am so grateful for that.
I may not blog as often as I would like because I am trying to be more present wherever I am. I don’t carry a camera with me everywhere I go anymore. I don’t want to work my life around this blog, because it’s not my job, just my hobby that I enjoy. So if I feel like neglecting my blog instead of my husband, I am going to do just that.
I am so grateful for those of you I have met through this crazy little blog world and thank you for inspiring me. I love blogging, and all the pretty fancy blogs that we all read, I really do. I just am not going to be one of those blogs with new outfits everyday and the perfectly posed instagram photos. Because sometimes I like to post funny photos that may be unflattering, and I am okay with that, because that is who I really am.
I look forward to connecting with all of you more. You can follow my personal instagram @tayhartley. And if you want to see the process of me making my dancewear brand Cove, follow me at @covewearnyc.
Have a great week everyone! xoxo.